Josh Langley

How to get out of your head

I’ve spent days, even weeks, where I’ve been living only in my head, with my body seemingly running on auto pilot. Hell knows how I managed to cook, dress myself or let alone drive.

I’ve then needed to ground myself, draw attention from my babbling mind back down to my body and my surroundings. To feel my feet on the ground, notice my breathing, be back inside myself and maybe watch a bee land of the lavender outside the office window.

Peace once again.

Going back thousands of years, even just a few centuries, we needed to be fully present for survival. To notice everything around us in case there was a threat. We used our five senses to navigate the world. Be alive with sensory awareness; mapping, remembering, taking notes and tracking our course. We had little time to listen to our neurotic thoughts.

It’s like to when go overseas for the first time and you step out of the airport into a bustling new city. You’re taking everything in, the sounds, the sights, then smells. It’s completely intoxicating.

However, in our normal lives we no longer sense any danger or imminent threat and rarely see intoxicating new things. Our lives are on endless repeat with the safety and monotony of work, going shopping, scrolling through social media and getting new tyres for the car.

With our lives on autopilot, our attention is squarely focussed on the whiny, nagging, ill-informed voice in our head. It rules everything.

So why would you ever want to leave there?

Why would we want to leave sanctuary of our familiar, yet often destructive inner monologue, for something that may seem boring?

Because you could swap that incessant babble for that we all long for …peace.

How do you find it?

Firstly, the art of creating something, no matter what it is, pulls you down back into your complete being. It doesn’t matter what it is; cooking, gardening, painting, playing the guitar, pottery, whatever. It brings the mind, body, and heart together and there’s less focus on the internal monologue.

Secondly, you could enjoy being in nature, simply sitting under a tree, immersing yourself in the sensory experience of listening to the birds, feeling the grass under your feet, the smell of spring blossom and feeling the wisdom of the tree infuse your soul.

When you’re not ruled by your neurotic mind (that wants to make up stuff just because it’s bored), you end up being more engaged with the world, more curious about life, less stressed, more fulfilled. Life flows.

Ah, the peace. 🙏🧡

Click below for handy starters to nurture self-awareness, mindfulness, creativity and nature play..

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